We used to think that the universe is made of planets, stars, asteroids, comets, black holes, and other heavenly bodies. But the latest scientific discoveries tell us that these heavenly bodies constitute just 5 percent of the universe. The rest of the universe is mysterious, invisible matter called dark matter (25 percent) and dark energy (70 percent). The dark acts as glue, but we don’t see it.

When we look deep into the reasons behind outsized success of few, we often see a similar dark glue. The glue here comprises of number of small and big things – some straightforward (hard work and perseverance), some nuanced (deliberate practice and self-efficacy). Here, you’ll find a modest attempt to unravel some of this dark glue.

Are these articles my opinions?

No. They’re backed by research, commonsense, observations, and plenty of examples and case studies. I hope the topics covered here will help you not only in becoming a better learner of English language (which can be daunting for many), but also in other spheres of your life.

Growth Mindset: The Mindset That Succeeds

2018-11-23T18:08:00+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

After a poor performance in the mid-term test (or at any other task), have your thoughts wandered in this direction:

“I’m a total failure.”

“I suck in math.”

“Everyone else seems to be doing better than me. I’m just not cut out for this.”

“Life is unfair, and my efforts are not going to make a difference.”

“The teacher is biased.”

If such thoughts often cross your mind, then you display fixed mindset, one of the two mindsets (the other being growth mindset) first articulated by Carol Dweck, one of the world’s leading researchers on achievement and success, and the author of bestseller Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.

When you finish an article or book on how a superstar became successful, I bet most of you wonder, “How can I emulate this guy?” You, of course, know ‘ten ways to be A+ student’ and the like, but you also know that knowledge of those ten ways is not enough. They alone won’t take you there. You need

7 Practical Steps to Stop Procrastinating and Start Studying

2018-11-17T20:20:57+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

Have you switched to Facebook or checked the score of your favourite sports just before starting an important, though unpleasant, assignment from your school?

Have you stared at the blank screen of your laptop for long and then moved to something else when writing the first few paragraphs of the paper due next week?

Have you enjoyed planning and brainstorming sessions a lot, but pushed deadlines when it came to execution?

How to Get Rid of Distractions from Smartphones and Internet?

2018-11-23T17:38:19+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

Morning.

You take the seat in your favorite corner. Today you’re determined to knock off the work you’ve been procrastinating on for almost a week.

However, just before starting, you decide to check your inbox. You check, and you don’t find anything worth your attention. (That’s what is going to happen if you check too frequently.) Because it got done so quickly, your digital-thirst isn’t quenched. You decide to skim your Facebook feed as well. After all, you plan to be off internet for three hours immediately after this.

You’re on a slippery slope now. You like (thumbs up) few pictures, leave few comments, chuckle at a funny video, and then click on a click-bait BuzzFeed article, which lets you slip further to a YouTube video. And then few suggested videos from YouTube’s long list of seductive thumbnails and titles…

By now, you’re neck deep in entertainment and procrastination, ignoring what you set out to do.

Sounds familiar?

Deliberate Practice Examples From Different Fields

2018-11-23T12:22:08+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

What is deliberate practice?

For the uninitiated, deliberate practice is a focused form of practice wherein you proactively look for improvement in whichever craft you’re trying to become better. Deliberate practice was first advocated by Anders Ericsson, who suggested that the top performers in any field reach the levels they do through deliberate practice. Think Roger Federer, Lionel Messi, Magnus Carlsen. Anyone can practice deliberately though, and improve her/ his level at a rate much faster than others’.

How is deliberate practice different from the practice that most of us go through?

Dealing with Depression in College – Do It Nick Vujicic Way [Video]

2018-11-23T12:02:42+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

If you’re finding it difficult to deal with depression in college or high school, if you think you’re the unfortunate one, and, worse, if you feel life is not worth living, then watch this video. Bit longish (nearly 15 minutes), but worth watching.

Nick Vujicic was born with tetra-Amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterized with absence of all four limbs. As a child, he was teased and mocked at. He thought he had no future, no opportunity, and no hope. And he nearly attempted suicide at the age of ten.

Today, he is a sought-after speaker (30,000 standing invitations at the time of this talk), has addressed millions in 60+ countries, has met the who’s who, runs a non-profit and a for-profit venture, has written two books, has done a music video, has acted in a short film with an award winning performance, and has a spouse and a child.

One Step at a Time: That’s How I Survived Extreme Cold and Hunger at 15,000 Feet

2018-11-23T12:03:32+00:00By |Why Only Few Succeed Big?|

We braved -7 degrees Celsius without sleeping bags.

We trekked 15 hours (a typical trek day is 7-8 hours) in a day.

We ascended nearly 6,500 feet (against recommended 1,500 feet ascent per day) in a day.

And to make it worse, we didn’t have food for 32 hours.

Such extremes could’ve easily proved fatal, but 25 of us survived, somehow, on this trek to Rupin Pass (15,250 feet).

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