Here are quotations and illustrations, with brief explanations where required, to motivate students for fourteen difficult situations (facing an important exam, procrastination, resisting peer pressure, addiction to social media, worry, lacking talent, and so on) they commonly face.
1. “I’ve to face an important exam.”
You aren’t the only one who is stuck, who is frustrated, who is not making progress. Many others are in the same boat.
Those who can find a way, despite these disappointments, will leave their peers far behind.
Few hours before the exam
Matthew Syed in his book Bounce: Mozart, Federer, Picasso, Beckham, and the Science of Success describes (in the context of choking in sports) the moments just before the opening race of 500-metre speed skating at 2002 Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City:
Some of the athletes are pacing around, steely-eyed, others sitting down and shaking their hands and feet; still others are in earnest conversation with their coaches, rehearsing their tactics and strategy one last time. The roar of the crowd through the curtains is an ever-present reminder that their moment of truth is approaching.
But one competitor is not engaged in any of the familiar last-minute activities. Sarah Lindsay, a twenty-one-year-old British skater, is sitting, breathing slowly, her eyes staring forward – and all the while she is saying something audibly to herself. ‘It’s only speed skating!’ she says. ‘It’s only speed skating!’ ‘It’s only bloody speed skating!’
Sarah could keep pressure at bay this way, and performed at a level above than what her ranking would suggest.
And if you keep working hard and keep learning from your mistakes, you’ll eventually achieve your goals even if you fail in one or more test.
Often times, you don’t know where to start especially when it’s a complex, overwhelming task. What you can do in such cases is to divide the task into small, manageable subtasks, and start from one of them.
You’ve to make a beginning.
In U.S., teens (13- to 18-year-olds) spend more than six and a half hours every day consuming media on screens (laptops, smartphones, and tablets), and tweens (8- to 12-year-olds), more than four and a half hours.
4. “I can’t resist peer pressure.”
Before joining the bandwagon, you need to also weigh what’s good for you in the medium to long term.
5. “I don’t like studying, or training for my goal.”
Not just you, everyone goes through it!
But those who succeed, work on their goals despite the discomfort. That’s the big difference, and in most cases, the only.
6. “I can never be like my classmates because they’re more talented than me.”
Michael Jordan was a creature of unimaginable work ethic.
Will Smith worked on his craft harder than any of his peers.
So did Mozart and Charles Darwin.
And world considers them to be exceptionally talented!
Studies have shown that grit and deliberate practice (form of practice in which you push yourself just beyond your current skill level and seek feedback on mistakes made) are far more important than talent to become expert in any field.
So, it doesn’t matter if your illustrious peers are more talented than you. You can surpass them …
Here are few quotes from the experts themselves.